How to Date a French Man



Ask a FrenchmanAh! Dating a French man! The dream of every foreign woman, and a few gay men too…

But how make this dream come true?
Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go?

You wish. But it’s not that easy.

One big mistake a bunch of people make when dealing with love and relationships is to assume that:

Love is universal, this is what makes us human, so it’s all the same everywhere. If we’re in love, this is all what matters, right?


Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures. Everything!

Especially dating…

Ignoring the dating rules of the country you’re in will cause trouble and failures in your dating attempts (yes, I’m sadly talking from experience here, Jennifer, if you read this : “sorry, I misunderstood a few things back in 1998”). I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.
Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local. Things will be slightly different if they’re both foreigners in a third country.
Knowing these local rules is of an utmost importance. It is the case with any rule, but even more so with dating, especially because too many people assume that dating is natural and not cultural.

With that being said, I know you’re all dying to know the rules of dating in France… Well, here they are!


The rule number one in dating in France is that there are no rules!

Well, that’s not exactly true, but let’s say that there are much fewer rules than in many other countries, especially the US (as usual, I’ll compare mostly to the US, partly because this is the foreign culture I know the best, partly because most of the readership is American).
Actually, the very concept of dating is not very clearly defined in France.
Remember that even if date (meaning: day, month and year) is a French world, there’s no word in French for date meaning romantic get together.

Let’s get into details.


First, the “asking out

Asking someone else out in France is not that different from many other places I guess.
It mostly consists in saying “Would you like to [insert something about dining, going to a movie or similar activities here] together?”
You usually ask this to the girl after you’ve known her a little, having met her at work, school, through common friends, etc.
I say ask the girl, because it’s really rare that the woman asks the man out in France. It can happen, but it’s extremely rare.
Please note that in France, you rarely meet your future date in a bar or a club… Well, it can happen, but much less than in the US.
A big difference between both countries is the bar scene.
In France, it’s really rare that you talk to strangers in a bar, unless it’s a very lively bar, it’s late at night and everybody is very drunk and happy. But early in the night, when people are still quite sober, it’s really rare.
As an (almost) rule of thumb, if a guy talks to you (a girl) in a bar, chances that he’s sketchy are extremely high.
Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France.
But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris.

One other thing one needs to know when asking a French woman out. In France, “no” doesn’t mean “no”. It means “maybe”, “let’s see”, “ask again”, etc. So if a French woman says no when you ask her out (or anything else), it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you, it means she’s playing hard to get, and you’ll have to ask several times. Of course, there’s a fine line between “several” and “annoyingly too many” borderline harassing, and this line will depend from one individual to another… It didn’t say it was going to be easy.

How is this relevant for a foreign woman dating a French man?

Well, if you, the foreign – possibly American – woman, say “no” chances are that you mean “no” and if you the French man still insists, don’t get mad right away. He’s been trained to behave like that by French woman, and he’s just thinking you’re playing hard to get and/or you need convincing.

Same thing goes with “I don’t know” and “maybe”.
I’ve noticed that in an American woman’s mouth “I don’t know” often means “no” and “maybe” often means “yes”.
Usually, in a French woman’s mouth (and consequently in a French man’s ear) “I don’t know” means “I don’t know, I’m not sure, convince me.” And “maybe” means “maybe, I’m not sure, convince me.”

OK, the asking has been done, the date is about to happen.
Remember that dates are not as codified in France, which means that basically anything goes, and what will make it a good or a bad date is whether you had a good time or not, and not whether he or she said or did this or that.

Now, here are a few important points where things are quite different between France and the US (sorry for the non-Americans among you, but I’m sure you can compare to your own culture):


French Man Calling

In the US, there are all those strange rules about calling; who’s calling who, when, how much time between two calls, etc, etc. None of these exist in France. And, usually and contrarily to the US, the more the guy calls, the better.
In the US, I’ve had some first dates going great and everything went south afterwards because the girl felt I was calling too much, pretty much harassing her.
In France, if a guy calls a girl a lot, it means he cares. If he doesn’t, it means he doesn’t care. Simple.
I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French (female) roommate. She started seeing this French guy. One day, she was all worried and stressed and pissed because he hadn’t called/emailed/messaged in about 8 hours! For her there was one possible explanation: he didn’t care about her.
Yep, this is how French women are, and as a consequence, this is how French men (that have only dated French women) will behave too.


Kissing a French Man

One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here). Sometimes, people, especially when they’re drunk, will kiss for whatever reason. And more important, people that are dating will kiss at the first date and regularly after that, even if they don’t think/feel that they are in a relationship, even if they see other people.
None of this is OK in France.
Well, kissing while completely wasted is somewhat OK, but will sometimes become very embarrassing the following day, depending on who kissed who.
However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: you want to be in a relationship with the person.
I’m saying it again: if you kiss somebody on the lips in France, it means that you consider this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend and that you want to be exclusive and in a relationship with them (long or short term doesn’t matter here, though).
Kissing and dating other people is not OK anymore.


Sex with a French Man

On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex. Even if things are far from perfect, they have a much healthier and more casual approach to sex. In France, there is no such thing as wondering after how many dates it’s OK to have sex, no such thing as “no sex on the first date, that means you’re easy” and so on…
In France, the rule with sex is simple: it can happen anytime after the first kiss… even minutes after it. It’s that first kiss that will trigger the “ok for sex” option in your relationship. Hence the importance of the timing of that kiss regarding to where you want to go and what you want to do with that person.


Offending a French Man

One thing that’s not exactly related to dating, but it can be… That fear that American people have to offend other people is totally misunderstood in France. In France, it’s OK to offend people, or rather, it’s the offended responsibility to be offended or not, not the offender’s one.
So, don’t be afraid to be honest for fear of offending the person. OK, it doesn’t work for everything (even in France, telling your girlfriend she looks fat in that dress is a big no no), but overall, French people are much more open and upfront than Americans. Keep that in mind when you’re in a relationship with a French person, whether it is about what they say or about what you say (or rather what you don’t dare to say).


Overall Advantages and Disadvantages of the (absence of) rules in French dating

Well, the main advantage is that things are more “natural”, people tend to follow more what they feel and less what should or shouldn’t be done.
The main disadvantages are that things can be a bit too blurry at times, especially in the pre-dating phase. I can’t tell you how many French girls I never asked out in my dating years – even though I liked them – because I was convinced that they didn’t care about me only to learn afterwards that the only thing they were waiting was that I ask them out. And on the other hand, I won’t tell you how many French girls turned me down when I asked them out even though I was convinced that they had a crush on me and well, they didn’t. These kinds of misunderstandings never happened to me while in the US.
However, concerning this last point, I wonder if this is really related to the differences in dating rules in both countries, or the differences in behavior in girls from both countries?



Well, I guess I covered the issue in the main lines. If you think you can bring your two cents to the discussion, the comments are here for that.

However, note that I strictly moderate them (especially this post). In particular, if you have a question about this particular French man, please note that the comment section is not the place to ask. On the other hand, I recently created an “Ask a Frenchman Google Community” where you can ask your questions and discuss the matter with whoever feels like doing so. Enjoy.

Edit: despite the previous warning, I’ve already asked several people asking me about the French man they met or similar personal question that I said I was not going to answer. So, please, don’t, I don’t want to have to consider your comment as spam. Thanks.



About David Billa

David was born and raised in the French South West. After a few years in the US and a few more in Paris, he finally settled down in Japan. He blogs here about his various experiences and travels, with an emphasis on his home country, France.

110 thoughts on “How to Date a French Man

  • Evelyn

    Delightful read! and informative. About kissing…I think one thing that confuses Americans is that there is such a strict line between the cheek kissing we all do here in France as a greeting (or a goodbye) and lip kissing. We assume that it’s a quick transition…after all, Americans hardly ever do the cheek kissing thing unless you’re really good friends; that’s too personal. Good to know that here in France, a kiss on the lips signals…romantic relationship!

    • David

      Indeed. Whereas in France a kiss on the cheeks or a kiss on the mouth are seen as two completely and pretty much unrelated things.

  • J'adore

    That is so true! I married with French now, and all I can say about your post is so true. I from asia, and we do have very different culture of dating. But as we knew all in asia, the hollywood movies been watch more often than european movie, so we adapt an “american dating” as an image of how to date a guy/girl (american or european).
    But honestly with french, is so much different, and they speak their mind often, even you like it or not. It’s a part of knowing how you feel about the situation. It’s been 5 years since we knew each other and the culture different is always there between us. But that what love is then! respecting and deal with each other’s differences!!! 🙂

  • GingerSky

    Wow, thank you for all this information! It is a refreshing read, very enjoyable to understand it and I will return to read again and to share this with my female online friends (we have a web community in which we discuss dating, and we have mostly US, Australian and British women, but also women from many other countries from time to time). Many thanks… I am from the South in the US so I will say to you a Southern saying: You are so sweet to share this! Much appreciated.

    (and btw I LOVE how French people say what is on their mind and what they are feeling, and how the offended party has the reponsibility. I adore that dynamic, and that is what I seek in a relationship for sure… one reason I keep dating men from New York City, Chicago etc. In the South here, we avoid speaking the truth constantly in order to control others and to avoid offending, and it is not one of our better points sometimes imo.)

    • David

      Thanks for your comment.
      (I thought no speaking your mind for fear of offending was not just a Southerner thing, but simply an American thing 😉 )

      • Jordann

        Actually, I wouldn’t agree with the statement that it is “simply an American thing.” People from the northeastern part of the US are considered to be more upfront and likely to say what it is on their mind than people from other parts of the country. For example, you can tell when someone is from New York by the directness of their responses, even after they lose their New York accent. They tend not to hold back on any question. However, a person from a southern state tends to be more warm and courteous. They are the least likely to offend in normal conversation. In my opinion, the latter is more effective and Southerners tend to get away with a lot more due to their passive aggressiveness (but again that is only my opinion). Then there are people from Texas, the southwest, etc. These regions are also different, but the US is a big country so regional differences shouldn’t be surprising.

        • David

          I agree with you that there are regional differences. However, even North-Eastern Americans are not as direct that you think they are. i.e. they are more direct than Southerners, but less direct than most Europeans (there are also huge differences from country to country, but overall I found ourselves more direct than Americans)

  • Tammy

    Found this blog, wonderful read. I am a Canadian woman married to a young Frenchman who was born and raised in Paris. We are currently residing in Canada and married last July in Paris. I will also note ours is age gap relationship, I am current 47 and he is 33.

    I met my husband when he was here in Canada 5 years ago. He was in Canada through the Canada-France young professional government program.

    I can say the article is pretty much bang on. I have been courted a few times in my life, but no guy has ever courted me the way my husband did. Calls, texts, messages in a bottle, S.O.S. signals multiple times a day, several outings during the week and weekends. I never got confused if my then future husband liked me or not. haha

    Definitely wine and dine was on the agenda. I did however treat him to a live hockey game, which he loved! As for sex, you bet liberal, he was a bit confused as to why I wouldn’t have sex with him on a first ‘date’. Well, Canadian dating culture is similar to American and most women wouldn’t do that. Later in our relationship he admitted to me that because he waited to him a mind-boggling 4 dates to have sex with me he actually thought I didn’t like him. haha

    I can’t speak about all Frenchman, but with my husband after 5 years the romance, passion and calls/text/messages in a bottle still continue, like when we first met. And for the record his French accent is still music to my ears. My co-workers still call him my ‘boyfriend’ as he treats me just a wonderful today when I am his wife, as he did when we first met.


    • Mimi

      I live in Montreal and this city is full of French expats (to the point where I sometimes go out to a neighborhood restaurant and my Québécois accent is in the minority!) I don’t know where you live in Canada but many of the Frenchmen here have a perception that Quebec women are loose and try to take advantage of it! I’ve meet five frenchmen and two of them were married (and “forgot” to mention it when we met). Generally it’s been passionate (both in a good and bad way) but I’m moving to Paris soon and I am horrified at the thought that my accent might give them the impression that I am easy ( as a tourist I haven’t had any problems, but living there full time might bring up new problems!) Hopefully the ones in Paris are as charming as your husband! 🙂

    • tiara

      Wow!! Tammy help me out finding me a French man he sounds adorable
      stay happy in love


  • Nickisha

    I wanted to say that this post was very interesting to me and I enjoyed reading it. I love french culture and the way they do things and how they live. Its awesome!!! Thank you for your words. May God bless you!

  • Nadia

    I’m sooooo happy to read that. I wish There were a post for how to date a french girl, and reserved especially for canadians… I’ve been dating a guy and heard after three months : ‘Are we serious now or not?’ It was really frustrating. Thanks for your article 🙂

  • adollyciousirony

    Kudus! Thanks for sharing this post. Everything you said about French men are all true in regards with dating. But there is one that I admire highly with French people… They are very family loving people. For them family is very important. This post will speak a lot about my relationship with French people.

    Merci beaucoup! 🙂

  • Sherry

    I have just moved to France and almost everytime I walk down the street a man will attempt to get my attention by yelling out to me or stopping me as I pass; I even had a man whistle at me tonight. I am not dressed suggestively nor would I consider myself beautiful (I am a bit overwieght). Usually I just ignore them and I always try to avert my gaze when I pass them so they don’t think I am flirting, but it is a bit disconcerning.I am just wondering if this is normal, as other girls I have talked to have not had it happen to them, and what I am expected to do about it.

    • Nicole

      Yes I am also overweight and living in Paris for the semester and it is extremely common here. Honestly I don’t take it as a compliment. That’s street harassment and it’s not about complimenting you so much as asserting their power over you. Definitely the correct response is to pretend they aren’t there.

  • Gabs

    Great post. I’m such a francophile. I’ve got two questions:
    Do people in france call their friends by “wife” or “husband” just because?..just as a figure of speech? I came across something like that a few times, but I can’t tell whether it’s just a cultural thing or not.
    Also, can you explain a little bit about “going on a walk”?


    • David Post author

      Mmmm… I’m not exactly sure what you mean in both case. You mean someone calling a friend (from the opposite sex? same sex? both? doesn’t matter?) their husband or their wife?
      I have never ever heard of that in France. The only time I saw that in the early days of Facebook, in the US (FB was only in the US at the time), where some college girls would joke that they were married to their best female friend (I never really got what was funny about that… or was it a not so subtle way to tell the world that they had explored homosexuality with each other? not sure).

      Concerning “going for a walk”, I know it’s a very foreign concept for Americans (seeing your IP address, I assume you’re American), but basically it consists in getting out of your house without using your car… and without a specific destination in mind… I know it sounds like science-fiction, but some people, Europeans especially, think it’s a good way to relax, enjoy life, spending time together and getting some fresh air at the same time, enjoy a scenery and much much more.

      • Gabs

        No, no, I understand going on walk, but I guess I’m more wondering if there is a term for “going on walk” that’s specifically refers to going out on a date, like after you’ve met them at a party or whatever else social setting and then the next step is to “go on a walk”.

          • Denise

            I think she’s asking whether being asked to go on a walk is the equivalent of the American being asked for coffee or dinner. Does it suggest romantic intent?

    • Edwige

      I think you mean “cheri/cherie”. That is the equivalent of sweetheart, honey, in the USA.
      “Ca va ma cherie?”That’s something french women say to other women when they are good friends.
      A bit like the USA when they get to know you and will call you “my love, booboo…”

  • Marie

    I’m Acadian, from Canada, so I don’t know how similar we are culturally to the US when it comes to dating. I find we also speak our minds, not as much as France though, but still very direct.

    As a female I find that when a guy doesn’t call he doesn’t care, so I move on. But I find Canadian men do it to act tough, because acting like they care is somehow unmanly? I often hear (Canadian) men complain about having to pursue women, but when I pursue men they don’t like it because they feel emasculated. If I want something, I will get it.

    I also find that Canadian and, especially American men, they get their panties in a bunch over sex. Very prude and immature.

    I do wish that French men would take no for an answer though. It’s a really big turn off when I mean what I say, but I’m treated like a fickle woman playing a game.

    • David Post author

      Well, if Frenchmen don’t take no for an answer, blame it on French women. 🙂

    • Daniel

      Just because you feel a certain way about sex or you operate a certain way sexually doesn’t make you right and prudish immature American/Canadian men wrong. It’s about not being compatible and moving on. No need for judgment calls. How would you like it if I said Canadian women are all sluts and whores! You wouldn’t like it at all, so please watch how you judge others.

    • David Post author

      No you can’t.
      Well, you can, but don’t expect me to answer any personal or private question.
      (and honestly you should look around the blog a bit more before posting such comments, both the contact page and the “do not ask me personal or private question” bit are not that hard to find).

      • isa

        who told you it’s a personal question? I wanted to ask generally, but forget it, you’ve got some serious issues, apparently.

        • David Post author

          OK, my bad, not a personal question then, just a general private question. That doesn’t nullify what I said about looking around the blog first though. Cheers. 🙂

  • Ann

    Interesting article. Merci. It’s never been a dream of this foreigner to date a Frenchman, though I have dated a few. I guess I’m one of the few Americans not enthralled by Frenchmen, though I do love the French people and find the language very beautiful. (I’m fond of good men of any nationality.) I do love the gallic bluntness and passion for lively discussions, i.e. arguments. I fit right in! My French friend just let me know that he finds me very intelligent in some areas, but not in others. That’s pretty bold for a man who is trying to woo a woman he loves!

  • Chrystal

    David, your post is fabulous. Some of your responses to posters, brilliant! Thank you for the very informative information and the unintentional laughs. I look forward to reading your other posts.

  • American Girl

    Thank you for the information! I want to know more detail on how exactly to get a french man. Do you have to wait for them to approach you? Is there any other way you can get their attention? Is there a better way to approach them?

    • David Post author

      I don’t think that those things are too different from one country to the other. However, maybe a French woman may be able to answer you better than I can.
      Also may I advise you to ask the question in the Ask a Frenchman Google+ community, you may find answers (the link is on the sidebar on the right).

  • Doreese

    I was at an open market in the Latin Quarter many years ago when a tall, dark handsome man approached me and asked me out. As I recall, there was not a lot of small talk leading up to the invitation. Since he was a perfect stranger, I declined. He asked maybe 1-2 times more and seemed surprised that I still said no. I was not offended by his persistence but I was aware that I was alone in a foreign country and going out with a total stranger did not seem like a smart idea. Should I have gone?!?

  • Mandy

    David, Thanks for your well thought-out article . I am enjoying reading the comments section Too. I am just acclimating to process of dating a Frenchman. he asked me out on a date online and we went out on 1 date he has been in touch with me every single day. he text me so often through the dating application that I end up not always responding to things and sometimes he’ll plead and beg for an answer To some questions. I like them very much I just have to get used to this since American men often act aloof and like they don’t like you in a strange way and I’m very used to that. of the times you won’t hear from them until the day of the Next date. my french guy has already set up our next date which is the same time pretty much in the same place although he is pushing for it to be in my place. and when we had our first date he pressured me to leave work early and I was able to since we only had a certain amount of time before he had to go Dueto prior obligation. he’s saying things already like he wants to dream of me when he goes to sleep. I’m having trouble taking them seriously since again American men don’t usually talk like this but I’m starting to like it I just trying to take him seriously

  • Diane

    I met a married French speaking man (he lives near France) online a few months ago. I am American. He was learning English and I am learning French. After about a month we had grown close and we began to have romantic feelings for one another. I know some people don’t think online relationships are real, but they are very wrong about that. We are both married so after about a month of online romance, we decided it was best to split up before either one of us ended up in a divorce court. It took six tries, lots of tears and sweet, sad words, but we finally managed to break free from one another. It has been nearly a month now and I still think about him all the time. I cry regularly wishing I could talk with him again. I love my husband, daughter and my life here in America, but there was something so different about him. He was so sweet, caring and protective. At the same time he was boyish and fallible. I wasn’t trying to fall in love with a French man and certainly not to a married man, but it just happened in the course of working together. His wife seemed to know of the affair but turned a blind eye. I had to tell my husband because I was crying so much after the break-up that he wanted to know what the heck was wrong. Things are okay between us for now. I did some major apologizing and am trying to be a better wife and mother. But I just can’t forget my French-speaking man. I think he will forever be in my heart until the day I die. It’s so sad because I never even got to see him or touch him and I probably never will. Talk about heartache! I am in misery and I suppose he is too. I guess I don’t have a question for you as much as I would just like to warn others about getting involved with these beautiful men. Often it doesn’t work out that you get to keep them and wow does it hurt! I may be looking at a lifetime of suffering. I don’t want others to suffer this way. Thanks for reading me.

    • Diane

      Diane, hi, I’m another Diane and I’m happily married and American and have been doing a language exchange for the last five years with a happily married Frenchman. I also unfortunately have some experience with broken hearts in my life but not with him. Honey, if a man will cheat with you, he will cheat on you, and this is true worldwide. There was no way this could have ended better, and you are really lucky your husband took you back! Did you know cheating is not really acceptable in France as a rule and that’s the reason President Hollande visited the Obamas alone in February? I’m sorry you had a hurtful experience and I promise time will heal you. This was not a beautiful man if he would hurt you like this. His wife was probably used to it or they have an open relationship! The Frenchman I talk to is a great person and great to work with. We actually do work hard with our conversation and grammar exercises. I understand the French don’t make friends after age 25 so that bothers me a bit about the culture, after 5 years I am still a correspondent like I’m a journalist or something. C’est la vie! I am learning a lot! I assure you there are actually good guys (and gals) in France who are great colleagues! Take care! 🙂

      • David Billa Post author

        Hi Diane,
        Thanks for your comment. I was hesitant to publish the previous comment as I’m sometimes growing tired of all the fantasies about Frenchmen and cheating and all that non-sense (and I’m always a bit surprised when those stories come from people who have some life experience), but your answer made it worth it. 🙂

        On a side note “the French don’t make friends after age 25” is not completely true. I’d say that back in the days, when French people were much less “mobile” than now (basically were born, lived and died in the same 50km radius) that was true, but not as much nowadays when people move and travel much more.
        I know I’m a special case, having lived in three countries and continents (and in four cities in France), but most of my current French friends, I’ve met after age 25, even if I’m still (vaguely) in touch with some of my childhood/high school friends. However, I admit that things would be very different if I hadn’t lived abroad, I most likely wouldn’t have met most of my current friends, and would be in touch with more of my old friends.

  • Diane

    Bonjour. My “story” was true and not a fantasy and the cheating was not nonsense; it was just something that happened without warning because we were attracted to one another and did not stop it in time. We were (are) very much in love and now in a great deal of pain over the break-up. Love can happen to mature people too. The heart does not ask for permission and it does not ask or care how old you are or even if you are married. The brain and the conscience must step in to bring order to the situation. We were both guilty of cheating, not just him. But, to our credit, we also both decided to end the relationship before more people were hurt. Merci for printing my article. Diane.

    • David Billa Post author

      Diane, do not get me wrong.
      When I talk about fantasies and nonsense, I by no means alludes to your story. I was making a general statement, and the fantasies I’m talking about here are not lies or imaginary stories, but the “fantasies” that many (non-European?) women have of meeting and dating (and marrying and living with?) a Frenchman to the point that they’ll actively seek Frenchmen for that purpose only.

      I call that nonsense, because it turns us – Frenchmen – as a stereotype, objectifies us, and honestly, I don’t think that’s a healthy way to start a relationship (and that’s why so many of them fail).
      Imagine a second if many men fantasized along the same line about dating a certain type of foreign woman (I know it happens), how racist and sexist would it sound?

  • Diane

    David, thanks for your explanation. I agree with you; however, the stereotype of the romantic Frenchman is very strong in the world and is, in large part, responsible for the popularity of France as a tourist attraction and for sales of French products abroad. French consumer products carry a romantic allure and a price tag to go with them. Beautiful women are objectified to sell products all the time and so it is with men who speak romance languages, I guess. The other side of this coin is that American men see being romantic as a weakness and do very little of it. American women are left hungry for romance and learn to do without. With the internet, however, it is now possible to contact men around the world who are comfortable being romantic and American women are not hesitating to do so. This wasn’t what happened in my case. I wasn’t looking for love, just to learn French. But love happens! I don’t know if Frenchmen in general are really are better lovers, but I doubt the stereotype is going to disappear and since France can take it to the bank, do we really want it to? I’m just thinking like a typical capitalist, ha, ha. Salut!

  • Haleh

    David sweetheart, you are such a brilliant person indeed. Explained the things so clearly. Thank YOU so much.

  • Clare

    Thanks for all the useful advice. Could you please tell me if a French man calls you “ma Cherie” what does it mean? I know it means darling but does it have romantic connotations or is it just a friendly thing to say?

    • David Billa Post author

      Without context it doesn’t mean anything.
      But if the guy is not already dating you nor is gay, that definitely means he’s quite sexist.

  • Angela

    Interesting article. Thought I would share my experience here. I dated a French guy briefly and had no idea of these rules (or lack thereof) until now. We met in NYC while in grad school. I’m not American but have spent most of my adult life in the US. Everything was wonderful since the first day until out of a sudden he told me that he didn’t have enough space for anyone at that moment, which I believed him and said it was ok. Of course, his response to my understanding “it’s ok” was “have you met someone else?” I was quite offended, so he apologized and said that was so French of him to say something like that. I wasn’t sure what that was supposed to mean. Several months later, he left NYC and moved to Paris. I too have been moving to different places since then. But recently I visited Paris and decided to write him after almost 4 years of no contact. He responded right away and was so eager to see me. We met up, had a good, and instantly connected like we used to. At the end of the night he hugged me for a long while then kissed me (yes on the lips). A few days later we met up again. But this time he acted very formal and said “I’m very glad to see you again, but this time I want to make the relationship right.” I figured he meant it wasn’t right that we kissed on the lips last time. So I acted like the kiss wasn’t a big deal and I didn’t expect anything from him because I didn’t want him to be uncomfortable. Sure enough, this time he didn’t kiss me (just cheek kisses). I left for other parts of Europe and returned to Paris a few weeks later, we met up again. This time he was different. He was open and more relaxed. At the end of the night, he walked me back then again grabbed me and kissed me passionately for a couple of minutes. We ended up fooling around but didn’t go all the way. He said this was unexpected and I believed him because he was genuinely walking me back to my hotel with the expectation that my sister was there (turned out she wasn’t). It was also unexpected for me. Several days later we met up again. This time we did have sex and both did expect it. It was supposed to be the last time we’d see each other. We said goodbye and promised to stay in touch. The next day, he texted and asked to see me again. No sex, just one last time to enjoy each other’s company. We said goodbye for real. As I walked away, I turned around only to find him hiding by a tree and watching me. I wish I could run back to him like in a fairy tale. But in real life, physical distance matters. We are now one ocean away from each other. I never know how he feels about me, but I know I’m so in love with him, not because he’s French but because he’s like no other guy. And that’s the end of it. It sucks! Big time!

  • Chouquette

    My boyfriend (a Parisian) is not a very typical Frenchman. Yeah, he also believes that there are no rules when it comes to dating, but he’s less ‘obsessive’ than typical Frenchmen. He understands the value of space and he knows that not speaking for a day isn’t a big deal. One thing is certain though, he did expect me to be monogamous as soon as he planted his lips on me. He wasn’t as eager to say je t’aime than others. He explained that love is a process. (He did say he loves me after a month of being with me). I’m meeting his parents soon and it’s going to be lovely. He never tried internet dating nor was he desperately looking. He told me that when it comes, it comes. He doesn’t try to find a girl on purpose. And I, just happened to be in the right place at the right time and we eventually fell in love! He frequently asks me to move to France but currently cannot so he’ll come visit me in Germany.
    Girls, if you find a Frenchman who’s lived abroad for a few years and who’s culturally-minded, then chances are, he’ll be less of a ‘typical’ Frenchman and easier to understand. I’ve also dated a VERY typical Frenchman in the past and it was extremely difficult and frustrating.

    I’m much happier now!

    -a fellow Canadian girl

  • Penny

    I just met a man in France who fixed my flat tire for me. We were together for maybe 1/2 hour and I left France soon after that never seeing him again. I did give him my phone number and email and have heard from him every day since with declarations of love. He speaks no English and I don’t speak French so we have a lot trouble speaking on the phone. Do you know of a good app or program that works with Skype that will translate our conversation? It’s so funny reading this article because he has so many of the attributes you talk about. I am not sure how old he is but I think he is much younger than me and that makes me a little nervous for him to find out my true age! Anyway, any good translators?

  • D.

    Wow! Dating in France is not far different from dating in mexico! I’m glad 🙂 well…except for sex, here it is a big deal like rather you do it only when you are in a serious relationship or you are considere a slurrrtsgagbsh (you get me) haha
    Cheers, amigos!

    • David Billa Post author

      Honestly, I have no idea… When I was single and dating, I didn’t have a cell phone, and now that I have one, it can take me days to respond to a text if ever.

  • Château

    Omg! I love this blog! Thank you David for all of your detailed information. I was just looking for a pet name to call my French “boyfriend”, this is way better! I’m so happy to know that my French man doesn’t think I’m easy! We met through mutual friends while I was in Paris. We kissed on the first date and yes, we had sex. We were inseparable after that! He texted me and messaged me (up until now) all day long, every single day! I’ve always known he’s very interested but I didn’t know how he saw this long distance relationship. I cane back to California and he wanted to come see me one month after. He knows I go to Paris every year, once a year and he wanted to come in a month! I was very overwhelmed. I didn’t know why he was insisting so much. Although I missed him, I didn’t know why he was being so persistent (Now I know!). I wanted to know where things were between him and I so one day I said to him “since you are single, I’ll just stay at your place next time I go to Paris”. I wanted to know how he would react to the question. He said “not anymore… of course you can stay with me!” So he is telling me he is now taken by me? This made my day! He tells me he misses me all day long. He sends my selfies at least 2 times a week. And he tells me what he is doing all the time ! I don’t know why he still calls me by my name. I want to call him something else other than “dear” but I called him babe once and he totally ignored it! He calls me “ma chérie” when he is not using my name….

  • Kez

    David, thoroughly enjoyed your article. Although I’ve come to the conclusion I’m more of a French girl, than a Brit! French dating makes perfect sense to me.

  • Gaia

    Great article! I was wondering if a french guy who now lives elsewhere, in this example, the UK, would you expect him to behave accordingly to that culture or at least not as intense?

  • Ang

    Cheers! I’m Australian and just met a much younger French guy in London who doesn’t speak much English, so it is quite comical and charming trying to communicate. I’ve dated other Europeans but never French, so this is goi g to be an interesting experience! Haha

    • David Billa Post author

      How do you get romantically involved with someone with whom you don’t share at least one language?
      It’s a mystery to me.
      Aren’t you confusing physical attraction with feelings by any chance?

  • Lesang B. Mokgosi

    This read was quite interesting and informative. Very true that culture does play a role in relationships…faites attention! Merci beaucoup M. David. Je suis au Botswana, je suis botswanaise….

  • Stella

    I recently met a Frenchman online. He did not disclose he was French. He wrote he would not pursue a woman if there was no reply, however, when there was no reply, he wrote again (haha). I asked him to send a picture of himself smiling, he looked soo serious, and he did provide a picture with a big smile promptly (haha). He was direct and complimentary. I immediately noticed the difference from the style of American men and asked if he was French, especially after he selected a French restaurant for us to meet at. I am very excited to meet him and think this article will help me out a little on our first date. Thank you!

  • Stefanie

    Cool article! The frenchman I met is like 18, but strangely he is not the type to go on social media, and he has moved back to Paris and we are now in different continents. I constantly message him, and he takes hours to respond, and he never messages me first. He is known to barely chat online. HELP! He seemed to really like me when we were together. How do I know his feelings?

  • Sophie P. de Saintonge

    I may want to disagree on some lttle details. As a french woman, I think I speak for a large number of us when I said that when woman says “NO”, 90% of the time, they mean it. The 10% remaining may indulge some romantic, flirtatious, hard-to-get game but these are really specific situation.
    YOu do’t want to mix situation and act like a really rude cat-caller, or another I-didn’tknow-I was-harrassing-you kind of men.
    I may disagree with some other stuff but it’s up to any one to interpret the love/dating situation in France.

    • David Billa Post author

      Sophie, context is everything.

      “these are really specific situations”

      Indeed. And what am I exactly talking about in this post? Those situations.

  • Noemie

    Well, I’m french so I apologies for my mistakes and the poor/awkward english. I can understand English well enough, but writing is not really my strong point. I thing there is true things in all what you expose, but there is so many types of “frenchmen/women”, you can’t really make generalities. It depends on so much things other than just being “french” like age, education, place, circumstances, context, personality, etc… I live and was raised in Paris, I’m 22 and when I say “No” to a man, It doesn’t have some hidden twisty meaning like “maybe”. “No !” it’s no, goodbye man. Some guys are insisting, adorably or heavily, but they are not all so persistent (fortunately, this behavior makes me uneasy, except if the guy is exceptionally funny and charismatic. But I usually don’t say “no” to these ones in the first place XD ). And no, if a guy doesn’t call me in a day, it’s not the end of the world. It depends on people. Some girls love to be in permanent contact with their boyfriend/sexfriend, some like me prefer have some space, especially if I’m busy and not so fond of him yet. I don’t have the feeling relationships are so serious either, there again it’s pretty variable. A french kiss doesn’t mean monogamy or sex to me, even if I don’t kiss a man on the lips if I’m not interested in (logic). Have sex the first night is not a problem to me, if I’m with a man I feel respectful and open minded (hate those men who think that women sexually free are bitches saying “yes” to anybody). But If we are in a relationship (not just a night and farewell), I need to know clearly if we are dating (monogamy), or if we just have good moments together, with sex and friendships, without couple troubles/love feelings. It’s true it’s pretty hard in bars to encounter people. When you go in a bar in Paris, unless it’s a bar you used to go with customer or barman you already know, you don’t go alone, but with friends or lover. So it’s hard to mix different groups or integrate a group if you’re alone (you looks like an intruder without friends). But with music and alcohol, it’s far easier, of course.

    It’s interesting to read such articles and comments, even if I disagree on some point ; )

    • David Billa Post author

      Hi Noemie.
      Thanks for your feedback.

      No, you can’t make generalizations, but yet you can.
      Of course, not everyone is going to react the same way, but everyone from the same culture (except for a few exceptions) will react in certain similar ways that people from other cultures won’t understand, won’t do, misunderstand and whatnot.
      This is what I’m trying to do (clear up misunderstandings and such) with this “Ask a Frenchman” series.
      If you’ve ever lived abroad or spent enough time with a group of foreigners, you’ll understand instantly what I mean. If you haven’t, I will probably not convince you, no matter what I say, but just keep those words in mind for the day you live abroad or meet those people.

      Concerning the “no meaning no” (or not), I’ve already responded in another comment, but there are a lot of them, so many you missed it, I understand.
      What I mean with that, it’s not about situations when a random guy is (usually very poorly) hitting on you in the streets or a bar. I’m talking about situations when you already know the guy, and the relationship between you two is not just mere friendship, but when there’s something more or less romantic already in place.

  • Nubia

    Thank you so much for the information. You help me to understand my long distant relationship with my French man. I’m crazy about him. The only problem he lives in France and I in USA (btw i’m Hispanic). He was planing to move to USA, in fact he bought a condominium in FL. We are over 50 years old. I have to keep faith he will move or ask me to move there. I’m little frustrated with this relationship but I’m so much in love with him. The problem he has is that his son wanted to move to USA and now his son has a girlfriend. So I don’t know what he will do. He is very private about his son and i like to respect whatever he does. He had visiting me and we get alone great.
    ps. David you are adorable. you are welcome to correct my English if you feel like and post the log if you want. thanks and God bless you

  • Fu

    I’m dating a French man.. Thought he is very needy for calling me and texting me, 24/7..
    I liked that but was a bit uncomfortable in the beginning because I’d only dated Americans and English before him!
    Now I know that it’s a French thing.. Very interesting. Thank you! (–Japanese lady)

    • David Billa Post author

      Good luck with that.
      It can be done. After all, I’m a Frenchman who married a Japanese lady after dating a lot of American (but no British) women.

  • Yo

    I enjoyed reading even the comments!
    I’m Japanese and dating with Quebecois. This article helped me a lot to understand his culture. Even though he is Canadian, his culture is very much French.

  • Rethel

    Hi David!

    Nice words! It gives me insights!

    Currently I am here in UAE right now, I’m 26- Filipina dating a French guy ( 28). We’ve been dating since the last 3 mos. Though it’s really a challenge everyday as we have different views and priorities in life, still we can get along and happy with each other’s company. But I feel he is ” changing me”. First, exposing me to wines, beers, cheese ( well I don’t have any problem with it as I also enjoy learning new things, it’s just that he wants me to form a habit on it) . Second, to attend ” rugby” games with him . 3rd, limiting my intake of sugars,rice,fats ( coz as a Filipino, am a rice eater, with 3 meals/day). He keep on noticing my hair,if it’s properly washed or not, properly trimmed or not, also insisting me to have a facial for my black spots,etc.. He is noticing every single details of me..I am trying my best to comply. BUT.. When you asked him to do things , he will say ” NO”. He doesn’t want to make compromises.

    Second, he wants me to STOP funding my family. As I’m helping them coz they’re financially unstable. But it’s becoming a big issue to him. He wants me to secure my money by keeping my SAVINGS and used it for ourselves. I told him you don’t need to bother yourself as long as am not asking money from him. It’s my responsibility to my family.But..He always raised his arguments against this. And by the way, most of the time, he is asking me to pay ” half-half” of the dining bill. As he said, it’s just normal ( though he is the one inviting me) and he said he still ” broke” due to his financial loans,etc..Though his salary is 3x bigger than mine!

    Then lastly, he wants our relationship to just go with the flow, no expectations, no pressures. I don’t get his point.Does he just wanna play? IF yes, why he is demanding too much from me if he just wants me to CHILL? And I also discovered he is chatting with other girls and even inviting them for meet-up and beers? Girls from this dating site ” TINDER”. I Asked him what’s really his intentions why he is still into this site ( as I met him on this site, by d way). He just answered, it’s nothing, just to have a ” good time” with other people. I told him, are you BORED with me? Or you’re finding someone better, and making me as a reservation as am just around. It was a big fight and I even initiated the break -up ..But he assured me that I am the only one he is dating with, he is serious unto me, even he is planning to take me to France & meet his family,etc…I can also see that he cares, it’s just that , I am not ” secured” with him.

    We’re not on speaking terms for 2 days, he even didn’t asked me not to break him up or say sorry to what had happened.

    Do you think our relationship needs a ” break” ? An END?

    Am getting tired, exhausted and I feel, it doesn’t have any future at all.

    Awaiting for your comments.



    • David Billa Post author

      I usually don’t post and even less respond to personal questions here, but I’ll make an exception for you.

      Er…. You are in an abusive relationship, haven’t you noticed? Get rid of him yesterday.

      • Rethel

        Hi David!

        Thanks for the exception and I really appreciate it coz I need some advice coming from the same culture ( French) .

        I have noticed that something is really wrong in the 1st month but since I never dated any other guy/s other than a Filipino,so I thought it’s just his culture * naive*..

        And I have this ” high hopes” that something might changed or he will treat me better when time pass by..Like on the getting to know phase, he’ll realized that I’m good, sincere, true and deserved to be treated better.

        Yes, maybe you are right.. I mean I took all things seriously since from the start , I asked him if he is serious otherwise I won’t be with him in the 1st place..But actions speaks louder than words..

        But I don’t have any regrets of meeting one. I did my best! God bless Him!

        More power to this site!

        Godbless you David! Thanks much!

  • Sophia

    I liked your post David. It was insightful. I am currently doing research on dating and relationships. I can totally agree with how meeting someone at a bar or club, doesn’t make a good starting point for a relationship. Ot of curiosity, how do people meet people in France? You did touch upon how it can be from work, friends and even online dating.

    • David Billa Post author

      Yeah, I don’t really have that much to add: common acquaintances, work, school, and I guess online dating is getting bigger and bigger nowadays.

  • Chanda

    Ok not fucking true about Americans being less sexually open than the French. I will argue with you about this till the bitter end. Come and get it Frenchman.

    • David Billa Post author

      Honestly I don’t have time for this kind of debate.
      Either you’re not getting what I mean by that or you’re simply wrong, but it’s well-documented everywhere that Americans have a somewhat messed up relationship with sex (it’s taboo, dirty and whatnot, so as a consequence they’re really obsessed with it, basically). I don’t really have much to add on the issue (and as usual, that doesn’t mean “all Americans”, but “enough for it to be a defining trait of the culture”

      • Chanda

        trust me mr. Frenchman I know exactly what you’re saying. I have lived all over the world and never did I feel more oppressed about being a “Slut” than I did in France. The French are very haughty and like to think they are better at everything ‘especially sex’ than Americans. There is a reason I, as an American woman is always asked why we are so “easy” especially in France. I remember a male friend of mine who lived in France for many years tried to convince their American friends that the French are a lot more conservative about sex than you are told. I have never in my life found it hard to be a slut in America. My French girlfriends talk all the time about how hard it is being considered a slut in France and how it dictates their every move. Americans are “doers” the French are talkers. Just because the French Talk about sex in “Theory” doesn’t mean they are more open in “practice”

  • M

    Great post; I’ve been trying to figure out if it’s worth it to act upon a mutual attraction with a French guy friend, and this helps to understand what he might be thinking.

    I’m commenting because I saw that someone else got upset over whether or not Americans are less sexually open. I studied abroad in Paris in 2013, and I want to bring up my experiences as a twentysomething. Americans stress out (when we’re at home) about being seen as prudes or sluts. Blame the Puritans and the Victorians for making physical affection seem so slutty/inappropriate. (If you don’t believe me, just Google something like “kissing on a first date” or “sex on a first date.”) Sure, we’re becoming less strict, but our culture is still quick to call someone a slut for kissing/having sex “too early.” When we study abroad or travel, we let loose and fall into the romanticism of having a fling with a sexy Frenchman in Paris. We have a reputation for kissing strangers or being “easy” because we’re on vacation, and our normal rules go out the window. Accents are sexy, and Latin cultures are *romantic* (hahaha I’m so funny), so we’ll go home with anyone who smiles at us. Of course, some Americans (like me) are conservative, but that’s not our reputation. Two stories:

    1. I was the only American at a weekend conference with a bunch of French students, and I was one of the only people who didn’t want to participate in a kissing game. One French girl was confused why I wasn’t participating (I didn’t want to kiss her or some guy I’d just met), specifically because I was an American, and she thought Americans just did that. She legitimately did not understand why an American wouldn’t fit the stereotype of kissing random strangers for funsies. (There were other French people who didn’t participate, like the French girl who was mad about the game because she wanted to flirt without anyone doubting her intentions)

    2. At a party with some French students, when I was sexually assaulted in a back room, I don’t think anyone knew what was really happening to me, because all they knew was that I was a drunk American. They didn’t know that I wanted to be left alone, just that he thought I was attractive, so they went with what they knew about American students. In their eyes, I was the slutty American who got drunk and hooked up with their friend. Their culture, his culture, and my culture had very different standards for kissing, sex, and physical touch, and it all came together in an unfortunate way. And that’s what stereotypes can do. (If you’re wondering, my French friends recognized it as assault before I did. And I’m doing better)

    You’re right in saying that Americans are weird about sex, because I’ve seen my American friends turn into totally different people when they go abroad. Truth is, Americans are weird, and French people are weird, and that’s why we need articles like this to point out exactly why we’re not as normal as we think 🙂

  • Katie K

    I just had a second date with a French guy, who I actually really like. I’m living in Paris, but leaving soon, so maybe this is part of it. In any case, I TOTALLY get what you mean about American’s being a little messed up about sex, because I found myself a little offended that on our second date he was asking me about what my secret fantasies were. Yes, we have kissed on the lips by now, so I suppose he figured “sex is on!” I told him I wasn’t taking him home, and he wasn’t offended, but my American brain is wondering “well, will he still want to see you again then?” From the beginning, he was not texting me every day, and he never calls, just texts. So maybe he did just want me for sex, because according to your article if he were really interested he would be calling or texting me every day. I should probably just not worry about it, since the relationship is probably doomed due to the impending long-distance situation. But it’s funny, I do recognize that even though it won’t go anywhere I’m still worried about him getting me too easily. Ah well, live and learn.

    • Estefania

      Katie – I am in the same boat you once where on. I am at a total loss with this French guy. Perhaps I should just move on like you did. Cheers!

  • Nicky

    🙂 my French BF is elephant glue… He will text me everyday and whenever is possible for him.
    He allow me to become myself and never hide my feeling even though it might hurt him, he just want me to be happy, be myself and honest with him.
    He is old school type person and very polite to tell me how he feel and discipline me…
    I guess French people is polite and I see how French kids behave very well on the table.. They respect food.

  • Zahra

    Thanks a lot !! All your comments are perfect. But I have a very big problem with my French boyfriend in our serious relationship…. we have a lot of difficulties …, culture, different work, religion and distance….. I really want you to help me 🙁
    I’m from Asia.
    Thanks guys.

  • Anne-Louise

    Dear David, Your article is just what I needed to read and I will read it again. The one thing that is missing and which is important to me is to know how Frenchmen feel about an older woman. I am currently being wooed by a Frenchman 12 years my junior and he swears it is not a problem. That may be so whilst our relationshpi is new and exciting but what about in years hence. I lived in Spain for several years and Spanish men do not give a thought to age differences. They just need to get on well with their partner/amante/amour.
    Your advice please as I do not want to start something that will fall apart because of my age

  • Fati

    I dated one very wonderful French man and I am a Malaysian, we have been in a very good and stable relationship. He is also always polite and respectful. We talk about the future a lot and this guy has met my father and I am in good contact with his family too.
    Recently in texts he sends the ‘pig’ emoticons and i have absolutely no idea of the meaning. He never use any words but only the emoticons.
    What does it mean??

  • Estefania

    Hello David – your post (and your comments) are genius. I was laughing all throughout because I have experienced a couple of these things which a Frenchman. Quick question: On our first date after eating our meals I offered to split the cost (yes, I am American, I do not know why I did that) but I was hoping we would reject my offer and pay BUT he accepted that we split the bill. This was a major turn off for me. In French culture – is picking up the bill for your date a big deal as it is in the States? Or was this guy just acting like a jerk?

    • David Billa Post author

      Splitting the bill is normal nowadays. Isn’t it in the US?

      Personally, I find not-splitting the bill extremely sexist. It’s the man sending a message to the woman that:
      – she can’t provide for herself, so a man needs to do it for her.
      – by doing so, he asserts his dominance over her.
      – as a consequence, he’s in his full right to expect something in return (understand: sexual favor)

      • Sky

        Hi all, I agree with you, David, it is sexist, if you really think about it; the bill should be split or if it can be freely assume that you will be seeing that person again, say that you insist on pay the next time. The French guy I am seeing keeps insisting on paying each time, but relented a bit and said I could pay next time…but..I do not think he will keep his word lol..

  • Chelsea

    Hello David, just one question. Where in France would you meet your future date? You said not in bars or clubs, I am just curious.

    • David Billa Post author

      Usually mutual acquaintances, and I guess nowadays, online. Didn’t I talk about it somewhere?

  • rosemary freitas

    hello, David.
    Thank you so much for writing this article and for responding to so many questions. You mention online dating, are you referring to Meetic?

    • David Billa Post author

      This one and others.
      I’m not too up to date where singles hang out online nowadays to meet their dates.

  • Lala

    Hi David,
    I am a Japanese woman, used to live in USA and Thailand, and now being in Paris. I always have issues with the timing of kissing. Moreover, people are becoming global-minded (knowing foreign rules of dating), and so it’s all mess!
    Anyway enjoy your stay in Japan 🙂

    • David Billa Post author

      Be careful Lala, you’ve been abroad long enough to not fall in the pitfall that many of your compatriots regularly fall into; 外国 is not one country, but about 200, and it’s not one culture, but probably thousands. So there are no such things as “foreign rules of dating”.
      As for the “French rules”, be reassured, it’s a mess for everyone. As a woman, you have an advantage though, as I believe France is still very traditional for that, and it’s the man’s job to kiss first. So if you feel comfortable for him to kiss you (and obviously if you want it to happen), let him do it. If not, gently but clearly tell him that you’re not interested.
      If you want him to kiss you, but he doesn’t. Maybe you could kiss him, I’m sure many men would appreciate. 🙂

      I enjoy my “stay” in Japan, but I don’t just “stay” (as in “stay in a country for a couple of years and then go home”) here, this is where I live now, not sure I’ll return to France.

  • Laura

    Interesting post. I like this guy I used to work with he is French. He just recently added me on Facebook. I would like to hang out with him but don’t know how to approach him.

  • Juliette Bros

    For me to sum up this narrative, I’d say it hints that maybe the French or Europeans are Authentic and Americans have to learn ‘how to act’, because every American thinks he’s on a stage and life is about ‘acting’ !!!!

  • Laura

    Does it apply to French men in general because each part of France, they have different behaviors even in relationship. I am in a relationship with a Frenchman from Biarritz, and totally different from my ex, he is from Mayenne.

    • David Billa Post author

      I think I have mentioned it in the post, but as a reminder, Frenchmen are human beings, not toys, trophies, or not sure what.
      As such, they have different personalities, characters, personal histories, educations, and regional differences, and as a consequence, this post must not be taken too literally, and definitely not as a “rule book”, and as they say: results may vary. 🙂

  • Alexis

    Hello !

    I went to read this for fun, and I actually laugh because a lot was right ! I’m a French guy, and the thing I agree the most is the “when you kiss a French, you’re in a relationship with him/her”. But even here, sometimes we can kiss for fun, but I know only few people how did this. And they went through troubles after this, (because the girl had a boyfriend, because they were sexfriend and the girl wanted to be a “couple” and not the guy, etc)

    For the SMS and the calls, it is also true ! But it can depending of the person. In my experience, my ex girlfriend and I were texting every two minutes, and I can’t do this anymore ! So, now I can answer after 3 or 4 hours (this is a lot of time between two text in France, you have to tell that you can take time to answer. And if you can’t answer for one hour, and that generally you answer to SMS quickly, say it. Otherwise, we will be worried about what could happen ! And it can be “Did something happened to you ? Are you alive ? [Insert your name] ?” True Story.)

    At last, for the asking out thing… Yeah, we (guys) are expected to make the first move, but girls and women can make it to. But it’s better if we (guys) make the first move. I guess ?

    I hope my english will not make you sick, nor make your eyes bleed, and thank you for this article !

    Bonne journée ! 😀

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